How to Make the Most of Your Parent-teacher Conference 

Q. My son is in fourth grade and his parent-teacher conference is coming up. What kind of questions should I ask his teacher?

A. Schools in New Jersey typically invite all parents of elementary students to teacher conferences once or twice a year to discuss their child’s progress. This is an important opportunity for parents and teachers to exchange information about a child and to develop a good working relationship.
Given the likely brevity of your conference, you’ll need to use the time efficiently so the meeting is as productive and informative as possible. The teacher will review your child’s academic progress, but you may have concerns she doesn’t address. Reviewing your child’s schoolwork and textbooks may generate possible questions. In addition, the following talking points might be things you’d like to discuss.

• What is your homework routine? How much time should students typically spend on homework each evening? What role do you expect parents to play with homework? Is my child handing in homework regularly?
• Do you give tests on a regular basis? If so, how often? How has he done?
• Which reading and math groups is he in? What is the process for moving intoanother group?
• What topics are you teaching in science and social studies?
• Is he putting forth optimal effort?
• What are his academic strengths and weaknesses?
• Is he below, at, or above grade level in academic skills? How does he compare with his classmates academically?
• Are there any signs of a learning disability? If so, should he be considered for remedial or special education?
• Does he show evidence of special talents or abilities? If so, how can we cultivate them?
• Are there school programs he can benefit from (for example, gifted and talented or enrichment programs, afterschool tutoring programs, instrumental music, or a homework hotline)?
• Does he contribute to class discussions?
• Does he work well independently?
• Does he appear anxious about any aspect of school?
• How does he get along with his peers? Does he have any problems during recess?
• Is he having any behavioral or social difficulties? How unusual are these difficulties for his age? Have there been any sudden changes in his behavior or mood?
• How can we help him at home? Do any skills need reinforcement? What materials, activities, or strategies would you suggest we use?
• When is the best time to contact you during school hours? Would I be able to contact you by email?

Remember: a parent-teacher conference should be a two-way exchange of information. A little homework on your part will help to develop a rapport with the teacher that can only benefit your child.

Dr. Kenneth Shore, a Mercer County school and family psychologist, has written six books about education. For more information, visit his website. Send your education questions for Dr. Shore to editor@njfamily.com.

November 2008